Parenting: Building Self-Esteem in Childing - as part of the expert series by GeoBeats. Strong self-esteem is really important. It makes our children feel confident and happy and satisfied. It makes them feel they can do anything that they try to do. Some ways to build that self-esteem are to, first of all, you can assign chores to your children. Make them feel like they are part of the team. Show them that they are needed and that they are important to the family. We can encourage new activities for our children, so as little ones, we can have them place their order in a restaurant with the waitress, and we can ask them to have the sales clerk ask for help. They can go out for a sports team that they have never done before. We can allow our kids to make some of their own choices. Making their own choices shows them that we trust them and that they are capable of making their own good choices. We can encourage a second try. We can teach them that failure is just a first attempt, and that we can always try again. And finally we can love them, we can appreciate them, we can like them, we can enjoy spending time with them. If they feel like we hold them in high esteem, then they will have high self-esteem.