Divorce, through the court system, can be very costly. The more court hearings and the longer the process takes, the more costly it becomes. You have the control mediating your case since it does not have to go before a judge, other than execution of a court order for your marital settlement agreement. The issues you choose to resolve are in your complete control, not the courts.

“Discourage litigation. Persuade your neighbors to compromise whenever you can. Point out to them how the nominal winner is often the real loser, in fees, and expenses, and waste of time. As a peace-maker the lawyer has a superior opportunity of being a good person. There will still be business enough.”(Abraham Lincoln)
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