Originally uploaded: January 8th, 2023

Youtube Link: https://youtube.com/shorts/hxVTE1WG9Ys

https://linktr.ee/aleshapeterson

*I'm behind on Dailymotion

Original Youtube Description:

Something great happened on one of my Youtube channels, and people been going crazy over it.
Go here if you are interested: https://www.instagram.com/aleshampeterson/.

Here's the advice I've been laying out.

Several things here.
(By the way, Youtube picked out an ugly screen shot of me....)

1.Have a sense of urgency. Tomorrow isn't promised.

I watched a lot of my peeps pass away these past couple of years, & I fell off badly because of it.

Watching the coffin close on the people you love can mess you up forever. After watching it happen over & over & over again, I'm not the same Alesha.

But it also scared me enough to say hey. Do this while you can.

To make the stakes even higher. My medical issues started in my 20s. I REALLY got to make my time count.

2). I also scratched beneath the surface to figure out my role in this life. I've been wondering why it was harder for me to access help at so many different periods of my life. I've been overthinking it. The answer was staring me blank in the face this whole time.

Not only is it terrifying for me to ask because I've had a lot of bad experiences with it, I'm also the strong friend. I don't want you to feel the pain. I'll only reach out & rant if it gets bad. I never reveal secrets, so if you vent to me tons of times I won't complain. (With anything trust takes time to nurture, so put me through any trust obstacles you want. After being burned a lot I understand making people earn your trust. Be choosy, don't cast your pearls before the swine).

That's my role. Some YourTango articles hit the spot. If you are a heavy lifter/strong person in your circles also, these descriptions are familiar to you...

"Because strong people become accustomed to being alone, & doing all the heavy lifting on their own. It also becomes second nature of people not being there. They carry burdens but don't like to burden others. And usually they are the last people that people reach out to, check up on or think about."

"People don't want to take on your problems in addition to theirs. Since your seen as the strong one, people figure you will figure it out. You're the type of person that could be experiencing the most grueling pain of everyone in a room full of people & no one notices because you don't draw attention to yourself or make it about you.

Here's to being in the gray hair club. Make each day count. #aleshampeterson #reel

Filmed January 4th, 2023!