The Real Reason Women Are SO Obsessed WIth Getting Married
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2016-11-10
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Spend most of your time creeping pictures of wedding gowns and venues on Pinterest (but you're single)? Sick of taffeta bridesmaids gowns? In her new book, author Doree Lewak explains why women obsess over why they're not married yet - and how to stop fretting.
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Hi, I’m Doree Lewak, the author of The Panic Years. I like to consider myself America’s panicker or at least America’s reforms panicker. The panics are a time when women’s agenda’s shift. Goes from dating casual, to dating for a fling, to single mindedly dating for marriage. And it’s a time when women really start to freak out about it not happening for them. I’ve been there. I thought I was a pannicker par excellence. For example, my sister’s wedding: traditional bouquet throwing. I remember practically flying through the air trying to land this sucker. I think even for the sanest most selfish girl today. It’s really hard to resolve the panic years when our cultural factors, sociological factors, you this out of control wedding industry. The very fact that terms like “Bridezilla”, designer Vera Wang and slivery wedding planners are all vernacular adds up to mounting panic. So few women wanna actually admit that they have the panic years but even fewer know how to recognize the symptoms. Scenario number one:
You're a bridesmaid at four of your best friends' weddings and you are suffering through a sickening number knowing you're stuck at the singles' table. This has panic years written all over it. Scenario number two: a set of clothes a hand bag, or even a nice dinner. Your remotely settled friends chip in for an eharmony subscription for your 28th birthday. P-P-Panic years. Scenario number three.
Your 23 year old friend has just announced her engagement to the guy she’s been dating for two months. You can’t even get the guys that you’ve been dating for two months to take you out on a Saturday night.
This has the panic years written all over it. When I first tell people about the book The Panic Years, I’m definitely met with some skepticism. I think allot of people initially are a little defensive. The thrust of the book and the main message I hope to convey in the book is one, positivity. I actually think its ok to be single and wanna get married but what I think is specifically dangerous is when women embrace that panic and let it overrun their lives.
The goal really is to reassure single women that there a millions of other women out there who are panicking right along with them. You know what, if you get married, that’s great. If you don’t get married now, that’s ok too. But the fundamental message is to not let yourself get consumed by the panic years.
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Spend most of your time creeping pictures of wedding gowns and venues on Pinterest (but you're single)? Sick of taffeta bridesmaids gowns? In her new book, author Doree Lewak explains why women obsess over why they're not married yet - and how to stop fretting.
[TRANSCRIPT]
Hi, I’m Doree Lewak, the author of The Panic Years. I like to consider myself America’s panicker or at least America’s reforms panicker. The panics are a time when women’s agenda’s shift. Goes from dating casual, to dating for a fling, to single mindedly dating for marriage. And it’s a time when women really start to freak out about it not happening for them. I’ve been there. I thought I was a pannicker par excellence. For example, my sister’s wedding: traditional bouquet throwing. I remember practically flying through the air trying to land this sucker. I think even for the sanest most selfish girl today. It’s really hard to resolve the panic years when our cultural factors, sociological factors, you this out of control wedding industry. The very fact that terms like “Bridezilla”, designer Vera Wang and slivery wedding planners are all vernacular adds up to mounting panic. So few women wanna actually admit that they have the panic years but even fewer know how to recognize the symptoms. Scenario number one:
You're a bridesmaid at four of your best friends' weddings and you are suffering through a sickening number knowing you're stuck at the singles' table. This has panic years written all over it. Scenario number two: a set of clothes a hand bag, or even a nice dinner. Your remotely settled friends chip in for an eharmony subscription for your 28th birthday. P-P-Panic years. Scenario number three.
Your 23 year old friend has just announced her engagement to the guy she’s been dating for two months. You can’t even get the guys that you’ve been dating for two months to take you out on a Saturday night.
This has the panic years written all over it. When I first tell people about the book The Panic Years, I’m definitely met with some skepticism. I think allot of people initially are a little defensive. The thrust of the book and the main message I hope to convey in the book is one, positivity. I actually think its ok to be single and wanna get married but what I think is specifically dangerous is when women embrace that panic and let it overrun their lives.
The goal really is to reassure single women that there a millions of other women out there who are panicking right along with them. You know what, if you get married, that’s great. If you don’t get married now, that’s ok too. But the fundamental message is to not let yourself get consumed by the panic years.
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