He’s a ladies man, “heaven help him when he falls.”¹
This “creep”, “disgusting” man who looks at all the girls
because he likes the eye-candy is thought of by the women as “a perfume
to try on” ² which makes her feel attractive, or validates her own perception of her beauty.

He is a “bit of fluff”. She disrespects him and distrusts him because he could easily transfer his affections to another by way of her appearance.
“The new model”, “the next best thing”.
So women will not show him the beautiful truth of their personalities, nor let him into their soul.

“Ladies Man” aka “Smooth Operator” ³ is however “Relationship Boy” in disguise. Firstly, by default as these women will not trust him to enter them without their belief of a humiliating dumping by him as a consequence.
This means the women are curious for his loner oddity, and sex appeal which “deep down in places they cannot admit to themselves” * they feel he is charismatic. Since they discourage him to the point of not even speaking to him,
denied love, he “hangs in there” morale-wise by fantasising about “one night stands” and “rooting them all”. This further misleads the girls who will not dignify this “disgusting creep” by showing their true beauty, themselves.

“Ladies Man” morphed into “Relationship Boy” starved of a unique feminine personality to ground him, be entranced by, and cling to, resumes his modus operandi of wanderlust comforting himself on the heterosexual pleasure he takes in observing faces, races, sizes and hair and eye colour.

This is no happy ending. Boy meets girl, girl meets boy, but they pass like two ships in the night.

1 Sade
2 inspired by Lauren Williams’ poem Flirting
3 Sade
* inspired by Aaron Sorkin A Few Good Men

Pete Dowe

http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/ladies-man-is-relationship-boy-in-disguise/