Find the best financial services for you at: SMARTFINANCESOLUTIONS.NET - Wife wants divorce but i think its more her parents then her forceing this any advice? - Start off by saying that our marriage isn't the worse. I have have bad spending habits and that has caused Alto of stress in our relationship. we had to file for bankruptcy but that was not only on me that was both of us spending without planning ahead. Just recently our house was almost foreclosed on but it wasn't caught back up after the bankruptcy so it really wasn't a new debt it carried over but the wife doesn't see it that way. The other is the truck which i bought for her because she all ways wanted one so i bought it for her as a present. i thought it wasn't going to drag us down i just wanted to make her happy and Alto of the spending is to make her happy i like to surprise her. but im a soldier and while i was deployed the house stuff was going on and it caused so much stress that she had a nervous breakdown. and that's when she said she cant handle it any more and she thinks she will be better off on her own. she says she loves me and cares for me Alto. and i can see it in her face when i try and talk to her about it. she says she is done and that she doesn't want to try any more because she thinks i cant change. because we went to marriage councilor and i didn't talk about our issues because i run from them and dint like to talk about them. the councilor wasn't very good at all i admit. but to top it off her parents want to her to get a divorce they went out and bought her a car and stuff so she will have one when she gets a divorce. i think she may feel obligated to go through with it despite her feelings, she has shown the will to work it out then the next day she doesn't want to any more after talking to her parents. to tell you what i have done since i got back from deployment. i have admitted myself into therapy to help deal with our issues. and to help control spending habits. i hate that it took her moving out and asking for a divorce for me to realize how messed up i was. i realize that i was not the best husband but i want to show her i can be better and i can change. what can i do to make her see i will change and work around her parents. i love my wife and its killing me to think ill lose her to this. how can i prove im going to change and that im serous and i will not go back to the way i was -